Adam

Adam

BEFORE:

I’ve been working very hard climbing career ladder. I was promoted to the position I dreamed of and then after 6 months into the role I started to feel exhausted. My natural drive and motivation was gone and I started to feel deflated and indifferent. My mood plummeted.

DURING:

I have never done anything like this before. It was all new to me and I must admit I was a bit cynical … thinking ‘let’s see how it goes’ kind of thing and not expecting much. I was recommended to speak to Dorothy by one of my friends who have attended a talk Dorothy was giving at her workplace.

It was actually really nice because when we first spoke I immediately felt relaxed and at ease. I remember thinking that it would be good to speak to the person who had not been involved in my life in any way.

It was like speaking to a friend who can see you with fresh eyes. Or a friend who doesn’t always agree with you which is so helpful. Or to a friend who doesn’t give you advice. It was good to have space to just talk, reflect and explore… I needed it. It was literally like speaking to a very good friend.

One of the most important things for me was to realise where my deflated mood and my indifference come from. It was good to know that it had nothing to do with my life or nothing to do with me. I learned about feelings and thoughts. I learned that thoughts always pass. I learned that I didn’t have to believe them!

Dorothy also helped me to see the positives in all that I have achieved. It all was completely invisible to me. I started celebrating my achievements and my life more. I also realised that I didn’t have to feel bad if I wanted to do something else… I was not married to my profession as such and had my whole life in front of me.

Lastly, I recognised that I have completely neglected domain of relationships.

AFTER:

I am much more resourceful around my emotional life and I know that there is nothing wrong with me. I realised that I don’t have to be driven all the time and it is ok to slow down. I know how to be with myself when I encounter stress or feel deflated or low. That’s really good.

I am exploring opportunities of moving out of London with my new partner. I am ready for new adventures.

The whole experience was exactly what I needed. It helped me to become more of a whole person in same way.

IF YOU ARE CONSIDERING COACHING:

“What is there to lose? And what is there to gain? I think it should be compulsory! “