I have found your coaching invaluable.
I was also receiving support from our local wellbeing service via telephone, and occupational health in my workplace, but this felt different. Although the local therapists were both very nice, I didn’t feel like I was learning anything new and I didn’t feel it was making a huge impact on my recovery.
Throughout our conversations, I started to learn something new. I had several insights and I found them very helpful and impactful:
- Control of my emotions: I have realised that I don’t have to consciously try and control my emotions. All I have to do is: NOTHING…. This is probably the biggest revelation for me and has had a huge impact on my recovery. DO NOTHING – just let the thoughts come and go. Feelings come from thoughts. They are not “real” things, if you let the thoughts go and flow through your head the feelings will also lighten and won’t be as scary.
- The snow globe effect: I have practiced this when travelling on a long journey and again it’s changed my life! Visualising my thoughts inside my head as a big swirling jumble and acknowledging that they are just thoughts, letting them settle and through that letting my mind become clear and calm. This worked really well for me!
- Searching for answers: I realised there aren’t any answers! This realisation helped me to lift a huge weight off my mind. I was able to stop over-thinking, over-analysing and googling constantly…
Right now, when I feel myself becoming anxious and those negative feelings start stirring up inside me, I know I have the above strategies to return to. I don’t look for a distraction to my thoughts and feelings but I acknowledge them and let them come.
This allowed me to find and feel an inner peace and to feel grounded within my core. I don’t feel scared.